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Psychotherapist
Couples Therapist

Simon
Banks


about me

This page details my qualifications, trainings and what drew me to this work.

If you’d like a sense of how I think and the philosophy that underpins my work, please look around this site, particularly the ‘from my chair’ section on the ‘read’ page.

First off though, the stuff that makes what I do legal, accountable and safe.

credentials & memberships

Master of Arts - Integrative Counselling & Psychotherapy, Roehampton University.

Registered - Psychotherapists Board of Aotearoa New Zealand (PBANZ)

Member - New Zealand Association of Psychotherapists (NZAP)

Member - British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

Certified SEP (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner)

Levels 1, 2 & 4, DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterning)

Levels 1, 2 & 3, PACT (Pyschobiological Approach To Couples Therapy)

Specialised somatic sexual trauma training

Certified Non-Violent Communication Mediator

200hr Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT)

my background

In my first career, I worked in the music industry as an artist manager and as an A&R director at major record labels both in the UK and overseas. The work I do now still has me spending time in that world. work in this world today. It gives me a unique perspective on creativity, pressure, identity, success, addiction and the complexity of being human.

My own challenges with mental health and what I now know to be ADHD and Autism provided fertile ground for addiction from a young age. I have been clean and sober since 2006 and continue to look at how addictive patterns still catch me off guard in other domains if I’m not mindful.

I’ve been curious about the human condition, what the point of it all is and the unconscious since I can remember but didn’t begin practising Psychotherapy until 2009, initially out of the UK, before moving to Aotearoa New Zealand in 2015.

how I work

I draw on psychodynamic, existential, person-centred, and somatic traditions — informed by themes around trauma, attachment, and nervous system science.

When I work with individuals, I see them weekly.
Couples, I usually see every other week and I work either online or in-person in Devonport, Auckland

I am interested in lasting change rather than simply helping people stumble out of the burning building.
Sometimes, though, people have to first get to safety until the right conditions emerge that could support an opportunity for lasting change.

Individuals come to me when they feel stuck - a cycle of anxiety, low self-worth, addiction, depression, emotional overwhelm, or maybe they notice a vague sense of disconnection from self, from others or from the world around them.

There may be grief, burnout, family issues, creative blocks, or complex relational dynamics. We work together to understand the experiences have shaped the survival responses that no longer serve you.

The goal isn’t to “fix” you (because you are not broken), but to support you towards an experience of being reconnected to your vitality, clarity, and centre.

Couples might come when they are having repeated arguments, a loss of intimacy, parenting struggles, emotional shutdowns, or the aftermath of betrayal.

Often, the issue looks like one thing — money, sex, work/life balance, parenting, or "communication" — but underneath, there are patterns shaped by each partner’s early experiences of care and connection.

Together, we uncover and shift these dynamics in real time and the couple is supported to move from disconnection and reactivity toward secure functioning — where both partners feel seen, valued, and in each other’s care.

If something in your life or relationship isn’t working as you would like, and you resonate with what you’ve read, please get in touch to arrange a complimentary twenty minute video call here.

I offer therapy for individuals and couples in Devonport, Auckland or online.

Simon Banks is a Psychotherapist and Couples Therapist providing psychotherapy for individuals and couples therapy in Devonport, Auckland, on the North Shore and online.