Psychotherapist
Couples Therapist
Simon
Banks
If you are here, you’re probably not be having the best of times.
A sense of connection may have been lost.
With yourself.
With another, or others.
With the world around you.
Or it may be that you’re still searching.
A quiet certainty that this can’t be ‘it’.
I spend time with people who are seeking to change the patterns and behaviours that keep them stuck, that get in the way of how they would like to be.
People who’ve experienced difficult events start to see how the adaptations created as a response are now stealing from them.
The work is gentle and paced.
But also strategic and direct.
Together, we attend to how your learned systems, be it nervous, relational or internal, are stealing from your present.
Couples therapy is quite different to individual psychotherapy.
Below, is a brief description of what I do but check out the pages that apply to you for more depth.
I work with individuals navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, addiction, burnout, neurodiversity and relationship difficulties. You may have a clear idea of what you want to work on or you may just know that something has to change.
I work with couples caught in repeating patterns of conflict, distance or misunderstanding. Whether the issue is communication, emotional safety, intimacy, betrayal, parenting, neurodiversity, life transitions or simply feeling like you’ve become housemates rather than partners, the work is less about referring your arguments and more about supporting you to build a new system to hold the relationship.
Get in touch if you would like to arrange a video call.