working one-to-one

If you’re reading this, it’s probably because something in your life is uncomfortable, unmanageable or unbearable.

That’s rough.

Friends and family may be hard to come by, have lost patience or don’t really get it. You’ve tried to figure it out but it’s not shifting. And it’s enough now.

Inexplicable low mood.

Navigating neurodiversity.

Dealing with the effects of trauma.

Cycling in addiction.

Or facing challenging relationships.

It’s likely your body is in on the act too.

The immune system, nervous system, inflammatory system and digestive system all change under stress. Usually in ways that aren’t particularly helpful.

Whatever your situation and whatever help you have or haven’t had until now, you're likely seeking deeper levels of insight into your patterns and their origins.

But insight, whilst helpful, isn’t always enough for us to avoid falling into the next toxic relationship, depressive episode, relapse, burnout or panic attack.

And so the ways you’ve so brilliantly yet expensively adapted yourself in response to experiences, wiring and environment need to now be dismantled so that the parts they protected can emerge.

Slowly. Intentionally. Carefully.

Picture the oak tree. As conditions allow, its roots burrow deeper, drawing in more of what it needs to thrive. Its trunk grows thicker, and the bark naturally falls away.

If a deer comes along and strips away that bark too soon, the tree becomes vulnerable to disease and infection. Growth is affected.

People are much the same. The pace of this work isn’t determined by impatience, appetite or even distress. It’s determined by what you’re ready for, what the conditions will allow, how your system, your psyche, your way or relating responds.

That’s different for everyone.

Aside from your readiness (not the same as desire), the outcomes of this work are heavily influenced by how we work together and not simply by what I’ve learnt.

Of course, credentials, qualifications, expertise and training matter and you can read about mine here.

If reading this has you curious to know more, you can read more about me here.

You can book your 20-minute video consultation here.
It’s a chance to ask questions, share a bit about what’s going on, and to get an initial sense of what working together might look like.

Based on Auckland’s North Shore, I work with individuals and couples in Takapuna, Devonport, and across Auckland, as well as online.