Couples Therapy Auckland
Somatic & Attachment-Based Counselling in Devonport, North Shore, Auckland & Online
Reconnect. Repair. Rebuild.
Every relationship hits hard places. Whether you're facing constant arguments, betrayal, distance, or just a quiet feeling that something’s not right — couples therapy can help you find your way back.
Based on Auckland’s North Shore, I work with couples in Takapuna, Devonport, and across Auckland, as well as online.
Why Couples Therapy?
Couples therapy isn’t just for couples in crisis. It’s for partners who want to:
Communicate without escalation or shutdown
Heal from infidelity, betrayal, or broken trust
Move out of patterns of blame, avoidance, or control
Rekindle emotional intimacy and sexual connection
Understand why conflict happens — and how to move through it safely
My Approach: PACT-Informed, Nervous System-Aware
I'm Simon Banks — a registered psychotherapist offering couples therapy grounded in the PACT model(Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). My work is shaped by:
Attachment theory — how your early relationships shape adult intimacy
Neuroscience & the nervous system — understanding fight, flight, freeze responses in conflict
Somatic psychotherapy — tuning into the body to unlock stuck survival patterns
Long-term, trauma-aware care — especially useful after betrayal or long-standing disconnect
This isn't just talk therapy. We work experientially — in real time, with what’s alive between you — to bring awareness and healing into your relationship.
What to Expect in a Session
Every couple is different. There’s no set formula because what you need depends on:
Whether there’s been betrayal or infidelity
How conflict shows up between you
Your individual attachment styles and history
Some sessions are structured and active. Others are slower and more exploratory. You’ll begin to notice how your nervous systems impact each other — and learn to co-regulate instead of co-escalate.
Location & Availability
I work with couples:
In person in Devonport, Auckland (North Shore)
Online across Aotearoa / NZ
Flexible daytime availability, with a free 20-minute consultation
Common Issues I Work With
Frequent fighting or shutdowns
Communication breakdowns
Sexual disconnection
Parenting stress
Emotional withdrawal
Affair recovery
Mixed-agenda couples (one leaning in, one out)
Poly / open relationship boundaries
Why Clients Choose Corsana Therapy
Trauma-informed, deeply respectful process
PACT-trained and somatically aware
Clear, steady presence in intense moments
Honest yet non-blaming guidance
Located in Devonport, easy access from the North Shore & wider Auckland